So, I get a lots of DMs here, which I mostly decline. So if you do not have a serious questions, which is very rare, do not waste mine and your time. Anyway, few days ago I received one chat request, from a woman allegedly. And boy, did she have questions. A pile of questions really and it surprised me, since questions were quite sincere and rather smart. Some specific and direct, some just general. How did you do this, how did you achieve that, why you do this or that, etc...
And I answered those questions but I am not going to write them all here, instead I will focus on one only. 
She asked me how did I know if I wanted this kind of relationship, and she asked this since she obviously is not sure whether she wants is, or not.
Well the answer is, I didn't know and I didn't know for quite some time.
Thus, I decided to test myself as well as my, at that time boyfriend. So we at first agreed on "domination - submission" day(s). Then we went for weekends of such kind, later extending that to weeks. We slowly implemented various kinds of games, play, etc...
And after enough time, we both learned what we liked or not.
Point being, do not rely only on internet and porn, practice it because otherwise, you could end up doing things you actually dislike, and being totally misguided.

Anne